Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Good Mommy!

We are leaving for our two day trip and the following convo went down:

Abbe: When are we going to go?

Me: We have to take Pepper to the vet, stop by Kroger, pack a cooler...

Abbe: Pack a cooler with beer?

Jason doesn't drink and I don't drink beer. Where did THAT come from!? I blame Jessica.

Monday, December 29, 2008

I'm better today.

It's good to know that all my blog readers care about me! When I'm ready to FA-LIP OUT, ya'll email, comment and call me to make sure I'm surviving!! Thanks for caring.

I'm better today. Much better. I've decided I'm going to work FT again to help ease my mind. I need more balance and that will give it to me. Jason doesn't agree, but at this point, honestly, I think it's something that we all need. Tyler and Abbe are in school already and Olivia needs more structure. Structure that she's not getting from me when we are at Target, lunching at the Olive Garden or watching Oprah. I think it's a good thing. If I could work part-time, I would, but right now the job I've been offered is FT. I'm going to give it my best shot to work. Millions of people with three kids work full-time, so we just need to make it work for us. With the help of my husband, it will work.

I've called Merry Maids for a quote. I'm not even sure how much they would charge or if it's worth it. As I was thinking about it today, I was thinking that even if it's 100 bucks every two weeks, that is 200 dollars a month!! Honestly, I'm not sure that's the answer. I think the answer is my crew helping a bit more around the house. They need to be responsible for their things and learn to appreciate their belongings more. Sharon suggested tough love, and to do that, I need to toughen up.

I will say that Jason did help out today. Give credit where credit is due, right? He vacuumed the stairs (honestly one of the things that put me over the edge yesterday) and put away all the Christmas decorations.

However, there is always a downside to every story. Any of you guys that know my father will understand this completely. I went with him to run an errand this evening and this is our conversation (keep in mind he doesn't read the blog so he had no idea how I felt yesterday):

Dad: Your kids are out of control. They tear things up, leave things in a disarray, can't find crap.

Me: I know.

Dad: You've got to do something. If it were me, I'd be putting a foot up their backside. They don't listen to a damn thing you tell them. I told Olivia to get her damn jacket on, and she's got shit everywhere so she can't find it. I told her that she needs to take care of her stuff and that damn kid yelled at me and told me NO. Boy, she's lucky she's not my damn kid.

Me: Don't swear at my kids Dad.

Dad: Well then I'll swear at you. Get control of them.

Me: Enough Dad, I've had a rough few days with them.

Dad: That cause you let them damn kids walk all over you. Show them that you're in charge and they'll appreciate it later.

Even though he's a grumpy old man, he does have a point. And honestly, there was more swearing in there but I left it out so all my nice friends would read it.

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Totally and completely overwhemled.

I just am overwhelmed with the mess of a house we live in. I'm at the boiling point and don't know what to do. I'm a horrible mother cause I'm just tired of it. Tired of cleaning all the damn time. Cause if I don't, it won't get done. All I do is yell and clean, it's a vicious cycle.

I get no help from Jason or the kids. All they do is mess. Drop their crap, leave their dirty clothes all over the house, finish eating and leave the mess at the table, toys every flippin' where. I'm furious just writing this. Beyond furious.

I'm disgusted that all this money we've spent on this house and it looks like crap already. Dirty walls, dirty carpet/stairs, stacks and stacks of crap everywhere. I'm pissed that my husband comes home and takes his clothes off and drops them in the floor, changes and does his thing. Then looks for me when I haven't matched his socks. I'm mad that my children don't appreciate ANYTHING. I'm sick to my stomach after going up to clean up Tyler's room and finding tons of candy wrappers under his bed. And if Olivia dumps all of her clothes in the floor one more time, I'm liable to walk out the door and never come back.

I'm over it. So over it. I don't know what to do. But I know this can't go on. I'm so unhappy and the maid has resigned effective immediately.

Friday, December 26, 2008

The best gift ever!

One of the things Tyler got for Christmas is an electric blanket. I've been under it all afternoon. It's so cozy. Beyond cozy.

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Merry Christmas!

What a great day!

My parents and my brother called to wake us up at 7:30 am. As we were snoozing away, I heard phone after phone ring and ring. We woke up to them knocking on the door a few minutes later. Chumps.

Thankfully, Tyler heard it too and ran downstairs with excitement. I went in to wake Abbe Mae up and while rubbing her back, I whispered to her that Santa came. She SPRANG out of bed! It was pretty funny. Olivia came in and they HAD to get dressed. This is a standard move for them every morning, as soon as they wake up, they have to get dressed. So glad I bought them all new Christmas jammies. It drives me nuts.

They were all so excited! It was nice to have everyone here, by the fire, opening presents, listening to Christmas music and eating sweet rolls. The big hits this year were the High School Musical sing along microphones for the girls and of course, for Tyler, his IPod Touch and docking station.

Olivia has a new bedroom complete with a new lady bug theme bed. She's never slept in her room nor in a big girl bed, but tonight is the night! We've already disassembled and removed the toddler bed from my room so she doesn't have much of a choice. I'm going to have to get on the phone with the furniture store we bought the bed from because they didn't give us the trundle part to the bed. I seriously hope they don't give me trouble about this cause we picked it up several weeks ago and had it in our garage until last night so we didn't even notice. We'll see what happens.

Abbe Mae got a new desk for her room. She's set! I was hoping she'd be into her new Leapster Tag reading system, but she may be too young for it still. Neither of the girls seems overly interested in their TVs. I think it's cause they are so used to sitting in the living room with me.

Tyler almost died when he opened his IPod touch. My brother and mother sent him on a scavenger hunt for it. It was pretty dang cute. We were really torn on getting him this cause he's only 8 and I may be kicking myself in the ass in a few months if he loses it. But here's the thing, the first time Tyler leaves it out or I see the girls with it - it's automatically mine for 30 days. I'm secretly excited about the fact this may happen! Uncle Jimmy has spent the afternoon loading it up full of fun things for Tyler to do and he hasn't put it down yet.

We spent the afternoon cleaning rooms and putting together toys. Toy makers need a frickin' reality check as to how hard it is to get the damn toys OUT OF THE PACKAGES. It's miserable. We are almost done, but I'm still waiting for Jason to put together Tyler's new desk.

We had a nice dinner with everyone including Sallie and Harold. Ham, macaroni, green beans, etc. Followed by tons of choices for sweets. Now that I think about it, Sallie mentioned a coconut cake but I didn't see one? I may have to go back over there and find me a piece or two....

It was a good Christmas and we are truly blessed. I hope everyone out there had a great day today and got to spend it with loved ones.

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

And the stockings are hung....

And then Santa came. He nibbled, mounted 2 tvs, put together desks & a bed and left in a rush. Of course, had a great helper....

Christmas Eve Mass

Tyler has been a regular in the Christmas Eve Mass for about four years. He really enjoys it. He was a little pissed he wasn't selected for the "lead" this year, but an Old Man is just as Abbe was supposed to be in the service, however, she had a fever this afternoon along with a cough and cold. So the girls and Jason stayed home to relax.

There are several pictures in here of our Church, just because we arrived early and it was a different place empty. I took the opportunity to take a few pictures of it while it was empty cause I generally get a few "evil" looks when I'm rolling around on the floor with my Rebel and huge flash on top during service. I don't care - it's my kid up there for crying out loud!

Merry Christmas and enjoy my "old" man!


Where our Governers make the license plates.

Sunday, December 21, 2008

The most wonderful time of the year!

I do love Christmas. It's one of the many joys of parenting. Here's what's going on in our house this week:

At our house, we don't put any presents under the tree until the kids are tucked in their beds on Christmas Eve. They go to bed with nothing under the tree and wake up to presents galore!! Every thing is from Santa. They don't care who it's from anyway.

I have one more present to get and it's cash so it'll be easy.

I haven't sent out Christmas cards this year. I'm ashamed. I've waited for the perfect picture of the kids and it hasn't happened.

Tomorrow I have to go to the Post Office to send a package to Jason's parents. I had hoped on getting it out weeeeeeeeeks ago.

Uncle Jimmy is coming to town on Tuesday. The kids are excited. They think he's taking them to the movies. I hope he does.

Kids started Xmas vacation Friday. Two weeks for Tyler and three weeks for Abbe. Fun times.

I bought really good gifts this year for my mom, dad, and a few others. :) I'm proud of myself.

Every year I say I'm not going to go over board on the kids and every year I do. Somebody stop me.

The day after Christmas, Mrs. Sallie is hooking up a grand breakfast at her house.

We are going to a new hotel with an indoor water park for two days on December 31. It's going to be a lot of fun ringing in the NY. They are having a special kids party with clowns, balloons, etc. I haven't told the kids yet but they will be thrilled!

The only thing that would make this holiday better is if I could spend it with my friends and family that are spread out across the US. I miss them all so much.


I think I'm going through it. My face looks like a pizza. My moods are off the chart. I think my voice may even be changing.

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Biggest Loser

I love this show. The transformation of it! Although I only liked one out of the final four contestants. It's amazing how great these people look. You'd think it would motivate me, but I'm eating donuts watching it.

Monday, December 15, 2008


I thought this was really cute.

(Taken from papers written by a class of 8-year-olds)

Grandparents are a lady and a man who have no little children of their own. They like other people's.

A grandfather is a man, & a grandmother is a lady!

Grandparents don't have to do anything except be there when we come to see them. They are so old they shouldn't play hard or run. It is good if they drive us to the shops and give us money.

When they take us for walks, they slow down past things like pretty leaves and caterpillars.

They show us and talk to us about the colors of the flowers and also why we shouldn't step on 'cracks.'

They don't say, 'Hurry up.'

Usually grandmothers are fat but not too fat to tie your shoes.

They wear glasses and funny underwear.

They can take their teeth and gums out.

Grandparents don't have to be smart.

They have to answer questions like 'Why isn't God married?' and 'How come dogs chase cats?'

When they read to us, they don't skip. They don't mind if we ask for the same story over again.

Everybody should try to have a grandmother, especially if you don't have television because they are the only grownups who like to spend time with us.

They know we should have snack time before bed time, and they say prayers with us and kiss us even when we've acted bad.

Revised XMas List

# 1

Friday, December 12, 2008

Jays Xmas list

Some shopping ideas for me:

snow in nashville

I doesn't snow often in Nashville. A maybe a dusting or two each year. But last night we were hit by a surprise storm. The thing about Nashville snow is it usually ice's first. It's not quite snow coming down, more like a mix of snow and rain. But the ground is cold enough to make it ice. So after a few hours of cold rain, it began to snow. Here are some pictures of our winter fun. As you can see in some of the pictures, it's solid ice under the snow.

We all have a snow day today. Thank goodness I have milk cause I'd hate to have to go to Kroger right now. I'm sure they are out of milk any how.




Thursday, December 11, 2008

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Fancy Party

Boy, have we had a great weekend. Truly what this season is about. Family, friends and celebrating Christmas. Amazing. We are all blessed.

We had the fancy party today and it was a great time. We had a very good turn out. So many of Abbe Mae and Olivia's friends came. The house was clean, fire going, Christmas lights on, lots of fancy treats (including a chocolate fountain), but what really makes it special is the fun and love that was in this house when all the children were here.

We did a couple of crafts, then went outside and sprinkled magic reindeer dust all over the lawn. After we sprinkled the dust, Santa magically showed up. The kids were SO EXCITED. I mean they were all cute anyways cause they were dressed fancy, but the pure joy they had when Santa came in was something I'm sure I won't forget any time soon.

Today was a good day. A really good day.

Saturday, December 6, 2008

Baby Jesus Party

Elijah had the coolest baby Jesus party today. It was awesome. Robyn had this biblical "scavenger hunt" game that the children played. As she read the story of the birth of Jesus, the children would have to find little boxes she placed throughout the house and in each box, there was a part of the nativity set. They had a blast running through her house looking for the gifts and then putting together the nativity set. Each segment, she would read a part that said something about the last box is what God wants for Christmas. Once they heard the entire story and found all the pieces, the last box was opened and the children looked in the box to find a mirror (a reflection of themselves). So all God wanted for Christmas is them. So cute. And this is what this time of the year is about. I need to send my kids to Robyn's house rather than Sunday school cause she was all about teaching them today. She even reminded them that Christmas isn't about the gifts they get but about the birth of Christ. It was great to watch them all sit around and listen so excitedly. Robyn has all the pictures on her blog.

Then they did a wreath craft, decorated a gingerbread house, had snacks and exchanged gifts. It was PERFECT.

Now I'm beginning to think I'm nuts for inviting all of Abbe's classmates over tomorrow for her fancy party.

Since it's the holiday season, can you pray for me? I'll need it!!

Why is it

....that on a day that I could sleep in (and by sleeping in I mean sleep until 7 or 7:30) that I wake up to pee at 6 am and can't go back to sleep? My entire house is still sleeping and it's 7:26 am. I want to still be sleeping but once I woke up, I couldn't fall back asleep! But during the normal weekly grind, I know I could sleep until 10 if I were given the chance to do so.



It's that time of year again. Busy. For example, today we have a Baby Jesus party at 9 am, Tyler is in the Mount Juliet parade at 11, then I have a cookie exchange/dinner party at 3:30. Tomorrow is Abbe and Olivia's fancy party. My house is trashed and a house full of kids and Santa are set to arrive at 1:00. Lots to do.

Last night I went to the movies with a couple of "friends". I'm really questioning this friendship and since I'm in the business to remove all drama from my life, this may be happening. I'm really just over it, mostly her husband. All of us married folk understand that when you are married, you come as a pair, right? Either way, I'm over it and unless some significant things changes, I'll be over them too. I'm waiting for her to call me back today cause we are going to have a very straight-forward conversation. I'm 35 and am not the one to just ignore or let things slide.

But the movie we saw was Four Christmases. It was pretty dang cute! Vince Vaughn was frickin' hilarious and Reese was adorable. I literally LOL'd in the movie. Not happy that I paid $9.75 to see it, but it was a good movie.